Blue Sleighty's Oral Sex Guide


Women worry about EVERYTHING. Especially having someone go down on them. What, specifically, do they worry about? Well- here’s a LIST of the top three. -With a grin!

Number one:

Freshness. Women worry about the way that they taste, and the way that they smell.

Since we are concerned about these things, it is of course, up to us to make sure that we are tasty, and in good shape. If you get in a situation where it appears that sex might happen- you can usually steal away somewhere and make yourself delectable. In Texas, we call it a ‘whore’s bath’, but, this is Texas, and we‘re weird and use more hallucinogenics than any other state in the union. It simply means that you excuse yourself to a bathroom, and make use of the facilities to wash yourself with soap and water, or, with a personal cleaner, if you have one. (Like, towelettes made for freshening ‘the area.’)

Sometimes, after a night of dancing, or after a jogging date, or a zillion other scenarios that might make us SWEAT, we find ourselves in the wonderful position of being face to flesh with our love interest’s pudenda. With any luck at all, anyway.

And, sometimes things aren’t perfect down there. So what do you do? More importantly- what do you NOT do.

Physical exertion makes us perspire, and perspiration smells……….bad, right?

If you and your girlfriend just mowed the lawn, or went on a three mile run, or she danced with you all night, and now it's MORNING- chances are she no longer smells like the soap she used to cover up the scent of herself when she first got out of the shower.

Knowing this, either suggest that you both go take a damned shower, come up with a clever solution, or enjoy her fragrance, and get on with it, already.

Do not EVER make a negative comment, or remark about a woman’s pussy, or any characteristic, or aspect of it- PERIOD. It will NEVER be forgotten. So keep your mouth shut, and if you can’t handle it- don’t go there.

I personally love the smell of pussy. And, I love the taste. I love it too much, I guess, because I have had women get upset, that I lingered too long over their natural lubrication, or that I was obviously enjoying the way that they smelled, and they didn’t want to know that. Some women are very uptight about it. So- be cool with the enthusiasm. Subtlety goes a long way with women.

So- ITEM # ONE- make everyone believe that all pussies are smelling GREAT, and tasting divine!

The next thing that women worry about all of the time in bed is: TAKING TOO LONG to have an orgasm. It is just the way it is. Most women require a lot of stimulation in order to have an orgasm, no matter who they are in bed with. After trust is established, and there has been some practice between two partners, it doesn’t take as long, sometimes. But, women require a little focus, reassurance, and sometimes encouragement (and, sometimes, electrical appliances- lol!) in order to get off. Make sure that she knows that you are happy to be there, and that you love what you are doing. A woman needs to be reassured that you want to do it, you like doing it, and you are GOING to do it, until she reaches climax. So, TELL HER, and mean it.

She worries about how she looks. Reassurance, please.


Some women have extremely sensitive clits. Some have clits that require intense stimulation. We are all different. It is a safe guess, when first making love to a woman, that the clit is going to be very sensitive, as this is more often the case.

Assuming that the clit is going to be very sensitive, be very careful about directly stimulating the exposed clitoris (the part under the little hood). Usually too much direct stimulation is too intense, and not pleasurable (too pleasurable?). Attention should be directed to the area from where the base of the clit lies at the top of, and between the labia, to the end of the clit, just before the most sensitive, hooded part, under the fleshy foreskin.

There are women, however, that LIKE the intense stimulation. They will usually let you know.

I have found that women require more than just oral sex. I usually like to make out, big time, before I go down on a woman. I love foreplay. Don’t all women? I could kiss for three weeks. I love making love. My girlfriends tell me I’m like Pepe Lepew (behavior, not odor). They mean that in a good way.

Petting. Remember that vaginal penetration is good only with clitoral (or sometimes other) stimulation. The desire to be vaginally penetrated doesn’t PRESENT, without some other form of stimulation, first. Women can be stimulated with things other than tactile contact. Sometimes, a visual image, or a stirred emotion can arouse a woman more than a touch. If she’s already that hot- she will let you know.

The breasts need attention. Nipples are very sensitive, and touching, pinching and sucking, are very exciting. Sometimes, women like to be bitten. But, don’t assume it’s that way for every woman. Go there in degrees. Don’t neglect the nipples when you are going down on her. Remember to reach up, and touch her breasts, or gently pinch her nipples. When we are concentrating on the clit, it's easy to neglect the other parts of her that need your attention.

Encourage her to tell you what she likes. And, LISTEN to her.

When a woman is sexually aroused, she produces lubrication. She gets wet. Most of you know this. Maybe some do not. If she’s not wet- she’s not turned on. Don’t dismay. She must be interested, or she wouldn’t BE there. So, stroke it until she's wet.


No. Not the tip. The tip of your tongue is good for tickling little strokes, and for probing. Not for serious stimulation. Flatten your tongue, and press it firmly against the whole length of her clit’s shaft. The tip of your tongue, of course, pointing down and should be even with the ‘hot spot’. Now, maintaining even pressure flat against the clit, stroke your tongue up and down. A little ‘circular’ stroke can be very good. And make sure you have plenty of lubrication. Saliva works. Or, dip your tongue into the wetness that should now be present between her lips, at her vagina, if she‘s turned on. Use your whole tongue, not just the tip.

Vaginal penetration while administering oral stimulation, is very exciting. You can use your fingers. Or, a dildo, or you can see how deeply you can penetrate her with your tongue, alternating between her vagina, and her clit. Don’t forget her clit while you are penetrating her.

Anal penetration is very stimulating. And, anal and vaginal penetration, performed simultaneously, feels incredible. If you have never penetrated the anus- be sure that your fingers are well lubricated, and that you do it VERY slowly, and listen to her. If she doesn’t like it- stop. And, do not forget the clit. You must continue clitoral stimulation with your tongue, while you manually penetrate her.

Try to maintain constant clitoral stimulation. If you get tired, kiss her (suggestion), and stroke her clit with your fingers while your facial muscles rest. But, whatever you do- do not say that you are tired, because then she'll be afraid she is taking too long to have an orgasm.

Donít be afraid to bring a lubricant to bed with you. It feels great, and it eliminates the pressure to get wet. Candles, incense, and sexy music are good things to have on hand. And, if you both like a little porn, movies, or stories can add a little stimulation. But, porn is a touchy subject. Be careful. Sex toys, vaginal penetration and strap on sex are very sensitive areas of conversation, too. So is the G-spot. Discussing things that a woman feels negatively about can result in a sudden change of plans. Like, no sex right now, baby. So, some things are better discussed at a less intimate moment. Just a suggestion.

Say only positive things. No complaining, no whining, all good. If you have something sensitive that needs to be addressed, think about how to say it gently, and try to put all things in as positive a light as possible.

If she has fears, and she was brave enough to address them with you- be gentle, and assuage her if you can.

And always remember- presentation is everything.

*******Let me say this one little thing about douching. Normally- itís a bad thing. But, if you ever feel the need to douche, use hydrogen peroxide and water. (NOT the hair bleaching kind! IT WILL HURT YOU!!!) The stabilized, 3% kind that you get, over the counter at the drug store. READ THIS ENTIRE ARTICLE. It is a good thing. In fact, you will be very surprised that, if you douche once or twice with a mild hydrogen peroxide solution, (water with 3% hydrogen peroxide)- you will straighten out most infections, down there. It will fix up most yeast infections. It even makes the environment inhospitable for cancer cells.

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